Have you ever heard of the "I am Second" movement? You might have seen people wearing t-shirts. It's a great campaign about putting Christ first in one's life. I am not here to question the "I am Second" campaign at all. However, I have been thinking lately about how the Bible does not actually tell us to put ourselves second. No. The Bible tells us to put ourselves last. LAST. No one wants to be last. Last hurts. Last feels defeating. Last can be uncomfortable. Last can be lonely. However, this is the life that Jesus has called us to. He said to his disciples, "If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all" {Mark 9:35}. Last means a life of service. And the Bible gives us a specific order for whom we should serve and how. First and foremost, we are to love, serve and obey God. He should have the first of our affections, our devotion and our attention: "You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might" {Deuteronomy 6:5}. Secondly, we are called to love the church - the other Christians in our life - both those in our neighborhoods and those serving as missionaries far away. We are called to love other believers by mourning with them when they are hurt, encouraging them when they are downcast, celebrating with them when glad times come, convicting them when they are in sin, making meals for them when they are sick, helping them when they are in need, and enjoying life with them with a thankful, joyful heart {Romans 12 //1 Peter 4}. Next, we are called to love non-believers. We are called to help them when they are in trouble and meet their physical needs by providing food, shelter, or clothing if necessary. We are called to love them with the words of the Gospel - words of truth and hope. We are called to spend time with them and show them that a life with Christ is a life of freedom, contentment and joy {1 John 3:18 // Romans 10:15 // Matthew 25}. Finally, we are called to love ourselves. Yes, we are to love ourselves because we are God's beloved. Remember, he tells us that husbands should love their wives MORE than they love themselves {Ephesians 5:28-30}. God knows that we love ourselves. It is not bad. It just needs to be kept in check. We are to love ourselves last. My sinful nature struggles to love self last. If not for the Holy Spirit and the words of Scripture to keep me in line, I would always meet my own needs, fulfill my own desires, and seek my own comfort before giving a thought to anyone else, including God. Others - God, my Christian friends, and the non-believers in my life - would always get the leftovers. They would get anything that trickled down out of my self-love. Maybe a meal here. A kind word there. A prayer every once in a while. They would not get much. But instead, I must strive to be last. I must deny myself. I must constantly seek God's will and the good of others before I attend to my own needs and wants. This sounds pretty brutal, right? And it sounds tiring. But then I look to life of Christ and I am sure of three things: 1} I must always put others before myself. Jesus was constantly pushing his own agenda aside to heal the sick and the blind, teach the disciples when their faith faltered, and speak truth to the Pharisees who hunted him down to test and batter him with their hardness of heart. I struggle daily to surrender my own agenda to the needs of those around me. {See Mark 10 for a few great examples of Jesus surrendering his day to other people.} 2} I can be filled up with overflowing love for God and others by returning to the Lord for strength. How many times in the Bible does Jesus rise early before a long day of traveling, preaching and healing to commune with God and seek His will {Mark 1:35}? How many times does He pray through the night for strength and guidance {Mark 6:46}? If I am not resting in and praying to the Lord, I will have no strength for the last place life he has called me to. 3} The Christian life IS tiring. Of course, there will times of joy and relaxation, and I do believe Christians should honor the Sabbath - a day of rest. But overall, our life is not about rest. Heaven is our rest. Heaven is the great Sabbath after a life well fought. This is why the Bible constantly refers to the Christian life as a battle, fight or race. A Christian life needs endurance. You don't need endurance for a sprint. You need endurance for a marathon, and the Christian life, the life that puts self last and serves other first, is a marathon. We need strength, determination, and persistence to serve others first, and this endurance can only be found in Jesus Christ. Like Paul, at the end of my life, I hope, by God's grace, to say: "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith" {2 Timothy 4:7}. ... Read more
College {your thoughts please…}
Above you will see me on my college graduation day. Rah Rah TCU! I am all about pulling the old awkward pics off Facebook these days. For more mid 2000s goodness, see HERE. Anyway, since I am talking about college today, I thought I would go back and find the very first picture of me ever posted on FB to provide some lovely college-esque photography for this post. Fittingly enough, the very first pic ever posted of me - or at least that's still up on FB - is at my college graduation. These are some of my friends. Most of them were also seniors that same year, but I graduated a semester earlier than everyone else {thank you high school AP credits that saved me over $10,000}, so I pretty much got to be the star of the show on that chilly December day. Do I look swollen to you? I think I look swollen... But this post is not really about my college experience or to figure out whether I was overweight, bloated or if I had just previously been crying when this photo was taken... Tonight I have the honor of speaking to a group of college students who are Young Life leaders in Scottsdale. Most of them are freshmen in college and our area director has asked me to come and give them some advice on how to succeed in college. I have some ideas on what to share, but I haven't really had a lot of extra time these past few weeks to craft a big, fancy talk with lots of pointers. Here is where you come in... if you had to give a college freshman one tip {or more} about how to thrive in college, what would you say, knowing what you know now? I want to focus on three areas: succeeding academically, socially, and spiritually. So what would you say for each of these? Please tell me below and I might use some of your tips during my talk tonight. Thank you and love you, sweet friends! Okay, I couldn't resist one more... here I am at a "thrift store prom" party. I was a sophomore and these girls were freshmen in a Bible study I led. 80s never goes out of style....} ... Read more
meet my REAL friends
So in one of my grad classes recently we were talking about how interpersonal relationships work online {yes, I have the BEST grad classes ever!}, and we were specifically discussing how people discount online relationships because they are not "real" friendships. Now let me be honest with you. Last winter {almost a year ago now!} when I began studying blogs for school, I would constantly see bloggers rave about all the amazing friends they met through blogging. I didn't quite roll my eyes, but I was tempted. I mean, did these ladies really consider their blogging friends true friends? Did they have other friends outside of the internet? Maybe just the really successful bloggers were able to have true blogging friends as they mentored and supported one another and went to blogging meet ups and the like. I was skeptical to say the least. And for the first year that I blogged. I really didn't have any blogging friends. I don't think anyone who wasn't already a friend or family member read my blog for at least the first six months. But then I started to notice names on my Google Followers list that I didn't recognize. Then I started getting sweet comments and e-mails from people like Jennifer and Jordan. And then one day, on my one year anniversary to be exact, I received an e-mail from the sweetest girl, Heather. And I didn't know it then, but it was the beginning of a real friendship. Through countless comments and e-mails, Heather became my REAL blogging friend. And just a month or so ago, I met another lovely lady who quickly became another REAL blogging friend, Erin. The great thing about Erin is that she lives less than 20 minutes away from me. Take that skeptics. Erin is my internet friend and we can meet for coffee face to face any time we want! So last Thursday night, Heather, Erin and I had the JOY of meeting up in person! We went to dinner at a fab little restaurant in Chandler, AZ and ate a smorgasbord of happy hour food for dirt cheap {sweet potato fries, mini bruschettas, and pitas with hummus equal a meal right?}, talked, laughed, took way too many pictures, and just enjoyed our real friendship that was born on this here internet. After dinner, we headed over to the Ocotillo Country Club where we got to meet another blogging friend, Ashley, and support The Shine Project to raise college scholarships for inner city high school students. We were welcomed to the country club by a high school drum line {I am a sucker for a good drum line}, and we enjoyed delish cupcakes while we watched the high school students perform speeches and music. We laughed some more, met a handful of other bloggers that we love, and took even more pictures. I am so, so thankful for Heather and Erin. I feel blessed to know them and I am excited to see our friendship develop over the years. They are amazing women of God with beautiful hearts and I am proud to call them my "internet" friends. P.S. Funny story. So Erin and I were a bit late meeting Heather for dinner due to crazy directions, so Heather had to wait at the restaurant by herself for over a half hour before we finally arrived. She was dressed up all cute and sitting alone, which caught the attention of some old men sitting at a table nearby. Finally one of them turned to her and said, "Honey, who are you waiting for?" probably assuming she had been stood up on a date or something. She looked at him and said, "Oh, just two friends I met on the internet." And here are some of our pics from the evening. You will notice the same exact pictures on Heather and Erin's blogs. Did we share our photos with each other? No, we asked everyone to take the same picture with three different cameras. We are those girls. Not annoying at all... {delish dinner} {golf cart ride from the country club parking lot} {getting to meet Ashley!} {the shine event} {and afterward we went to fro-yo because we just didn't want to stop hanging out with each other!} {bye friends! hope to see you both again soon!} ... Read more
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