I just finished reading John 15, which just has to be one of the most beautiful passages of the whole Bible. Jesus is the vine. We are His branches. We are to spend our lives on this earth bearing fruit for God’s glory, and in that we will find joy and our “joy will be full” (John 15:11).
But to abide in Christ, the vine, means we must love Him, and there is a little twist to loving Christ; it means we must obey Him. There is really no getting around this in Scripture. I can’t love Christ and disobey Him. I can’t love Christ and obey Him most of the time or when it’s conveninent or easy to do so. In John 14, Jesus says “If you love me, you will keep my commandments” (v.15), and then again is John 15, He says “You are my friends if you do what I command you” (v.14). Sometimes this obedience “if” is a big “IF” for me. My pathetic, selfish heart does not always want to obey God. Now that I am married, my biggest tester of obedience is Micah (whether he knows it or not), because I see him so much more than anyone else. Micah is an amazing husband, but he’s not perfect. There are times when Micah is legitimately sinful toward me (and, of course, I sin against him as well), and it’s in these moments when I look at Micah’s sin that I feel myself not wanting to obey Christ. What I want to do is point out Micah’s sin, at least once, maybe twice, get angry, then give him the silent treatment and resent him for the next couple of days. Then I remember that the Bible tells women to win over their husbands with their “respectful and pure conduct” (I Peter 3:1)… even if their husbands are unbelievers! How much more should I respect my husband who is a believer? And that’s when I have to stomp out my pride and show God my love by obeying Him, which means forgiving my husband and talking about things patiently when I am hurt or mad. It’s not always fun, but I can say that it leads to so much more joy in my marriage than harboring bitterness or erupting in anger.
